Old-School Relaxer Myths That Need to Die (And the Truth Instead)

For decades, relaxers have been a go-to for Black women looking for ease and versatility. But along with that long history comes a whole lot of misinformation, some of it still going around today. Whether it came from the salon chair or from your aunties, these myths can keep us from caring for our hair the way it deserves.

Let’s set the record straight.

Myth 1: A tingling or burning scalp means it’s working.

Truth: Tingling isn’t progress. It’s a warning.

The idea that burning means the relaxer is doing its job has led to countless cases of scalp irritation, burns, and long-term sensitivity. If it burns, rinse. Don’t wait for the timer, and don’t push through it.

Burning can mean your scalp was already irritated from recent washing or scratching, or wasn’t protected before application. If burns keep happening, see a stylist before your next touch-up. If you have blisters, open sores, or pain that won’t ease, see a doctor.

Tip: Base your scalp with a petroleum-based product before relaxing, and avoid washing your hair for 5 to 7 days before.

Myth 2: Relaxers stop your hair from growing.

Truth: Relaxers don’t stop growth. They affect how well you keep your length.

Hair keeps growing from the scalp whether it’s been chemically treated or not. What relaxers can do is weaken the hair shaft, especially without proper care, and that leads to breakage. That’s why relaxed hair needs regular trims, moisturizing and sealing, and protein treatments.

Myth 3: You can relax over already relaxed hair.

Truth: Don’t. Overlapping leads to overprocessing and severe breakage.

A touch-up is for new growth only. When relaxer goes on previously relaxed hair, you risk weakening your strands to the point of snapping. It’s one of the main reasons people deal with breakage and thinning.

Tip: Section your hair beforehand so you can control where the relaxer goes.

Myth 4: Relaxed hair is “unhealthy” or less versatile.

Truth: Relaxed hair can be healthy and versatile with the right care.

Relaxed hair doesn’t have to mean dry, brittle, or limited. Protective styling, heat-free methods, and good maintenance can all be part of a healthy routine.

Myth 5: You can’t color relaxed hair.

Truth: You can, but it has to be timed carefully.

Relaxers and dyes are both chemical processes that change your hair’s structure. If you want both, space them at least 2 to 3 weeks apart and prioritize deep conditioning before and after. Leave bleach or high-lift color to a professional.

Final Thoughts

The conversation around relaxers should keep up with what we know now. At MJ’s Mane, we want you to have the information you need to feel good about your hair choices.

Our Signature Relaxer System is still in development, and we’re building it around a better understanding of Black hair, with quality natural ingredients planned for the after-care steps.

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